Divorce finalised today

[50plusandfabulous]

I don’t know why I’m so sad, my marriage wasn’t good and it was my choice to divorce. 26 years is a long time though….
I sent EXDH ( first time I’ve called him that 😞) a message saying I wished him all the best and would always be here if needed , also that our DS would always be our priority , and he sent a nice message back.
I’m 52, have a good career and am financially independent) no sign of a relationship of any significance on the horizon ( a whole other story) and I just felt sad empty and a bit defeated today in the 15 mins I had to think about it before my next call at work today. 😭

You will always wonder about the ‘could have beens’, but it ended for a reason. Well done you for making the change, and good luck with your future. The world quite literally is your oyster.

I'm 52, a lone parent with a career. What I'd say to you is I think you are bloody marvellous.

So many women in here stick in shit marriages who aren't financially independent.

It's ok to feel sad, reflective because its what makes us humans. But mainly you should be feeling proud and making plans.

How old is your DS? Are you co-parenting ok?

I spent years in my own, and I met someone amazing. But I tell you one thing, a few years on my own was the best thing I could do. I'm very independent, happy in my own company and it's then you know you won't compromise your boundaries or that of your DC for a shit man.

Yes you’re bound to feel deflated and sad even if you were the one who instigated it. You did it for a reason though and all power to you for taking that step! All the best 👊🏼

Of course you’re sad. It would be strange if you weren’t. Not many people go into marriage thinking that they’ll get divorced. For most of us, we assume that we’ll stay happily married until one of us dies of old age. So it’s only natural to grieve because it didn’t work out that way.

Take a day or two to be sad, but then pick yourself up and start thinking about what you want your life to look like. You’ve got the opportunity to start again from scratch, but with all the wisdom that comes with experience. You’re completely free from him making you feel unhappy. It’s exciting!

Thank you for your lovely messages , it is very much appreciated. @jeaux90 DS is 25 and lives with his girlfriend , so co parenting not an issue.