Known her 20 years. When our children were babies around 2015 I remember so much stress around the friendship. Her daughter was 18 months older than mine and I remember her toddler being so rough around my newborn and her being completely oblivious. I ended up cutting her off for 2 years after 9 months of watching and struggling with this situation. On one occasion she put pressure on me to walk round the local fair. My daughter was 3 weeks old and screamed all the way through due to her dummy dropping on the floor. She just didn't offer Any solutions.
She split from her boyfriend 3 years ago. Moved out. She's been on dating apps since. She seems to expect me to be available whenever she's lonely and bored. Can't get her head around the fact I have children and leaving them with their dads not always easy. She is often complaining that other friends are letting her down and cancelling or changing plans.
She's got obsessed with her exes new girlfriend and seems to want to find faults with this woman. Her ex declined going to a firework display with her this year because he was going the next day with his new partner. She cried and complained that nobody wanted to do anything now.
She's horrible about one of my exes. She never met him but we had troubles. She stalks him! She will message me and tell me the brand of trainers he's in and exactly where she's seen him..she saw him in his work clothes outside asda ones and he was coughing.. she messaged me to say he was coughing like an old smoker.
Today my ex has offered to move out of our house but stay on the mortgage so me and the kids can live here. My friend instantly said she knew a girl who wasn't able to have a mortgage due to self employment. Then she said what if the mortgage goes up. Then she said you'll have to pay for things that go wrong. I can't help but think this is because her ex kept their house and she's renting.
I feel like she's just not ever on my side unless she can relate.