Did anyone lose mutual friends/acquaintances after breakup?

[Skyeblume]

For me it was more acquaintances, a group myself and my ex were part of. I took a step back from meeting the group as a whole because I wanted to avoid my ex but kept in touch with a few I was friendlier with. Ex continues to meet the group, and that's fine, I don't expect people to take sides. He discarded me very coldly in the end and was quite nasty to me in what he said, and that's why I continue to avoid him, but never told anyone in the group exactly what was said and what happened. I've recently seen photos of them all in a group setting and I felt a bit low after it. I have to say though I've good friends of my own though and spend time with them.

Anyone else experience similar?

Yes, with my ex. We had a group of friends which a mixture of people we both knew mutually or people he knew before me. I was very close to the women in the group. I'd organised their hen dos, given a reading at one of the weddings and thought we had a friendship in our own right. We split up and he met someone else very quickly- actually probably they probably crossed over with me. I suspect a few of the group knew that. Initially we agreed that we would say to our friends to invite us both to things, we were still relatively amicable, and we'd both agree who'd go or both try to go. Then I found that I was pushed out. One of the women told me it wasn't fair to my ex's new partner - after five years of close friendship - and in spite of the fact that none of them apparently liked her. I haven't spoken to any of them in years.

Yup. One partner tends to get custody of the friends.

The other gets avoided or told that it’s too hard to continue as unfair to the new partner (of the ex.)

Its very sad.