Mums new partner took a discrete photo of me

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I met my Mum today for lunch and her new partner, I have seen him briefly before so this was the first proper time meeting him. We all had a nice lunch together in a restaurant, after about an hour he said he’d like a photo of me and my Mum together, I said sorry but I didn’t want my photo taken, as I was also eating and found it a strange request, as we had not long met, anyway he had his phone in his hand and I saw he changed the angle and I could see he took a discreet photo of me, my Mum was next to him but I don’t think she saw, as she was eating still.
I didn’t say anything and carried on like normal, shall I contact my Mum and tell her what I saw and ask her to tell him to delete it?
It’s made me feel quite uneasy especially as I told him I didn’t want a photo taken.

What a creep. You've told her and that's all you can do. If she's not wise enough to leave that's up to her.

I would never return with creepo there.

You've done what you can. Don't meet with home ever again. Hopefully your mum will see he is not someone who is a good choice of bf.

It's easier for your mother to be annoyed or displaced with you since your relationship is more secure.
You can't keep saving her from herself but you can stand up for yourself and tell her you do not appreciate her cold behavioir because of her boyfriends creepy behaviour, she's angry at the wrong person.

I completely agree with this. What possible reason could he have for wanting a photo of his girlfriend’s daughter? It’s creepy. And it’s far easier for your DM to be annoyed with you than it is for her to ask him why he’s taking sneaky photos of her daughter.

I suspect your relationship with your DM is in for a bit of a tricky time.

Get your Mum to do the Freedom programme and buy her a copy of the Lundy Buncroft book Why Does He Do That

She need to educate herself about emotional abuse as she is very likely to be with an abusive partner if she has been before. Her boundaries will be non-existent and she will have a skewed sense of her own value and boundaries.

You said no to a photo and he did it anyway.

Not respecting other people's boundaries is a red flag.

I doubt your mum knows delete just puts it in the dented folder where it stays for some time. WHY did he want a photo of you? There is no reason other than weird ones.

What a creep

I would just say go your mum that you will only meet up with her when he's not in tow and that he's not welcome to your home.

Can you tell her it's made you feel really uncomfortable - you're worried she can't see this is a red flag and you'd be happier if she did the freedom programme/got support from someone trained in healing from abusive relationships?

Astonishing that your mum doesn't seem concerned about why he took that photo.