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[NoodlePuppet]

Please don't bash me for this because I am doing something, I am just scared.

I am in the process of realising I am living in an DA situation and need to leave or at least work out a plan- so far im trying but haven't got too far due to fight or flight absolute fear.

I am worried about disclosing things to people if I'm honest, I don't condone smacking, and i know in this country we don't have a smacking law as such (I know there is policy etc) not that it matters because in my eyes it is a deal breaker whatever way I look at it, However, if I disclose that my husband has smacked one of our children are the support I've disclosed to - i.e. midwife going to refer me to social services and the children all be put at further risk and even being removed even though I am doing everything I can?! This is what I'm terrified off.

I feel so absolutely stupid. I am an educated woman, and I feel so so stupid BUT i am being proactive! Even if I am embarrassed.

Please don't attack me.

How old are these children?.

I doubt very much that your children would be removed at all, let alone immediately, if you are actively trying to get out of a domestic abuse relationship.

I would contact Womens Aid as they can go through your options.

I need help - information and support on domestic abuse (womensaid.org.uk)

Breaking the silence is the only way to get the help you need.
Your own fears of the possible consequences are understandable, but the most important thing right now is making sure you get all the support you need to leave. That means confiding in people. You have done nothing wrong and are actively trying to do the right thing. Have confidence in that. People will see that you're a good mother trying to fix a broken situation.
I wish you lots of courage.