Best OLD app for over 50s?

[Shimla999]

Hi!

This has probably been asked before, but I was just wondering what other people's experience was. My subscription with Ourtime ran out yesterday. But I'm not too impressed with the site and would like to try some others. A friend recommended Tinder and I have read on this site that some women recommend Bumble. I always thought Tinder was just for young people (I'm 60), so never tried it. Anyone found it a good site? I was told it was also used by people looking for friends, not just romantic partners, but I'm not sure whether that is really the case.

Or would you say Bumble was better? They are both more expensive than Ourtime (at the special offer price I have always paid 😁) but maybe they are worth it. I have downloaded both apps and have had lots of 'likes' (or whatever they are called), but can't see the photos properly unless I pay. I'm not sure which app to try first.

Thanks in advance for any recommendations!

Match or bumble might work for you I think.

Thanks 😃 - I have tried Match (it is like Ourtime, but for all ages, I think) but don't know much about Bumble.

Bumble gives women more control as they will have to make the first move in terms of interacting, it's very easy to use you swipe right I believe on people you like and left on the people you don't. I think blurry people are the ones they swiped on you but you haven't matched with them yet.

I’d say Bumble and the free version is better than others as you can message matches without paying.

Also after a couple of weeks they usually offer a half price deal on premium. So you can let the likes build up, pay £11 for a weeks premium, see all your matches and swipe like mad as likes are unlimited in this period.

Like you I found Ourtime a total waste of money and full of very grim men who looked older than their advertised age.

Personally I would say Hinge is better than either Tinder or Bumble…

Get off those websites and get yourself out. Down the pub, in a meet-up group, doing an activity, join the red cross/st johns ambulance, voluntary work, anything really.

And you think we don’t already do that as well?

It’s not really very helpful to make those sorts of comments when most of us already yet out there but still don’t meet anyone.

Whoever you choose, don’t choose Eharmony, they will scam you for their dubious personality test (£65) if you “join”.

Any other agency, read the terms and conditions very clearly before parting with any filthy lucre!

Thanks for all the answers! 😊It's great to hear other people's opinions and experiences.

I've been too busy with work to investigate Bumble further today, but it's good to know about the special price they might offer if I wait a while. It just all takes so much time though 😁

Funnily enough, even though I haven't renewed my subscription, I've just agreed to meet a guy I've been chatting to from Ourtime. He asked if we could meet up on Sunday morning. I suggested a place I like a lot that happens to be halfway between our towns, so, even if there is no spark, at least it will be a nice way to spend the morning and not too far away! But I do agree that there are a lot of very grim men on Ourtime who look older than their advertised age!

That's interesting - I don't know anything about Hinge. Why do you think it's better?

Thanks @tescocreditcard but I am already doing all these things apart from pubs (I don't drink alcohol and live in a small village where everyone knows everyone).

But, I am SO fit now because of all the hiking I'm doing 😁 I've never walked so far, so often in my life! And I'm trying to do voluntary work etc. etc. too.

It's not easy to meet new people when, like me, you live in a small place in a sparsely populated area. Plus, I work from home and am 60 and virtually all my friends are in long-term relationships. I wouldn't use OLD if I were able to meet people easily in other ways, believe me! 😁

Thanks for the warning!

I just found more genuine people on Hinge but I guess it may depend on area. Tinder and Bumble had many of the same people on them, and many just seeming after sex whereas I found people were more after a connection on Hinge

Seems different apps work for different people. I’ve been on Hinge a couple of months and not had a single match.

Are you on FB? That’s got a dating app now

I must have a look at Hinge and FB dating - I don't imagine they are any better than the others, but who knows? 😁

In my (limited) experience they are pretty similar (done are owned by same company and are virtually identical.
My thoughts:

• don’t subscribe immediately, they are ridiculously expensive and often offer discounts if you sign up and then don’t subscribe immediately
• Bumble is a lovely idea (ladies make first contact), but is like tumbleweed and everyone seems really grumpy/depressed about OLD
• Ourtime seems to have a lot more traffic, but a lot of that is driven by presenting matches from way out of your area (also not convinced the numbers aren’t boosted by fakes/bots as the difference in traffic between it and its competitors is dramatic- doesn’t mean it’s any less grim at times though…)
• e-harmony is dead in the South West
• I live in, fairly, rural Devon - you will see the same guys on most sites…it’s like Groundhog Day…it’s the same limited pool, like all of us they have/had tried a number of sites
• whether it’s because you are a new profile, or the algorithm is boosted, the first few days can be encouraging and then it trails off…

I’m probably not the best person to ask…I found the whole thing utterly depressing…I think single is better than OLD for me 🤨

Ourtime and Match are basically one and the same. I was on Match and often matched with people who were on Ourtime.

From my experience (I'm 61) most of the dating sites are much the same and it just depends on who is on them at the same time as you. I met the guy I'm now dating on Match (he was on Ourtime).

I've had a fair amount of dates through Bumble earlier this year, but last year when I was on it I had very little. Tinder is much the same, there is a lot of dross and the usual scammers but you have to try and find the good ones amongst the rubbish! I live in the south and thought Hinge was a waste of time but maybe better if you're in London or another large city.

A few thoughts from a bloke who struggles a bit with the OLD scene.

The main thing is to fill out your profile as fully as possible - you never know what the hook might be for someone. Also we all have things that make us think it is more or less likely to work - for me it's teetotal, veganism or being overly religious, intrinsically there is nothing wrong with any of these but they're not for me. On the other hand if it's someone who likes good wine and food or shows an interest in the wider world it piques my interest.

Think paying is good practice and for those of us in middle age I wouldn't get too hung up on appearance on the site. There are all sorts of bizarre photos of women out there (and from all I've read men are even worse) - I like to chat with someone before any meeting - for me at least it's the best way to start.

Think many will tell you on here for us older folks its a numbers game - I've met quite few nice people who didn't work out but they were genuine and interesting

Best of luck