Comparisons

[Chesterdoodle]

Why would a 'friend' keep reminding me she earns more? . Why the comparison?
I'm.going through a rough time at the moment and will have a paycut next year, in a cost of living crisis. I find it insensitive and I don't understand the comparison part? Am I being too sensitive? is this a way to knock me down? there have been other comparisons too.Flippant remarks.Shall I continue to ignore and what is the best way to handle it.
I've had relationships before where I have been put down for various things. I guess this happens to everyone, I am resilient but surely those who care about you wouldn't do this. Does it say more about them?

I think the question should be why are you still spending time with her if she drags you down? No need to be resilient if you take yourself out of the situation.

Very true, I've already started distancing myself. Just makes me sad and I guess however much it is analysed, she feels the need to do it.

I find it odd too that some people feel the need to act like this - put you down in some way, say things that really don't need to be said...and then think it won't affect their relationship with you/you'll want to spend your precious time with them.

Why though? Who knows really - poor social skills/insecurity/feels jealous towards you about something else/little power trip/emotional immaturity. It is their issue though, so I wouldn't take it personally. I guess you could try asking them gently why they said that each time they do it from now on but I would just spend much less time with them if they are draining you like this.

When I think about it more, she compares a lot. My house is nicer, I look younger etc to me, it's not what it's about and it's all relative. I really feel uncomfortable with these comparisons. We are not teenagers BTW, late 40s! I'm finally walking away and having the confidence to believe in myself. It has taken a long time