Been married to husband for 10 years. 3 step children (young adults) and 3 younger children. Everything I do or say or not do or somebody else does it always seems to come back to me and be my fault ! I know I have my faults but surely everything can’t be my fault?
Take the current blame….. my husband is really ill, his 24 year old has literally been waiting on him hand and foot and not letting me have a look in, I start making hot water bottle or hot drink and she comes through saying ah I’ll do it, now she’s gone back to work and suddenly I’m getting the blame for not looking after him ( I have 3 young ch listen at home, 12,8 and 2.5, two of which I home school) I have zero spare time and where I do I’m constantly asking if he wants anything or can I do anything for him to which his reply is “god I can tell she’s back to work, it’s ok I’ll just go into living room and be I’ll by myself” my youngest is a bad sleeper and I always end up sleeping on sofa with him, instead of step daughter saying “I’ll take the toddler and you sleep next to my dad to look after him” she slept in the bed with him for 2 nights ! I’ve always felt like she was trying to be the wife of the family. I feel like one of the children and she’s the parent. I can’t talk to either one of them about this as they again it will back fire and be my fault. Sorry just needed to vent off !!