Purposely being left out?

[mamaxbear]

Advice wanted really.

Me and my mum have had quite a fractured relationship since I found out I was pregnant. I think I developed a trauma bond throughout my teenage years, and now I have my own child I see right through her toxic traits. Anyway, I found out via texts from her that she had my other siblings and their families round at hers on bonfire night. Me and my family weren’t invited, I didn’t even know it was happening, but I had texts telling me how much of a great time they all had. Am I being sensitive or is she purposely rubbing my nose in it?

What a bitch.

Sorry OP.

It sounds like it, yes.

Perhaps drop all contact.

Yep, she is rubbing your nose in it. Does she like drama and conflict? It certainly wasnt done by accident, she knew what she was doing.
Toxic mothers seem to purposely breed resentment between siblings, they love to control situations, keeping the attention on themselves.
If it has upset you, get yourself over to the thread 'well we took you to stately homes' pop it in the search, its been running for years. A lot of wisdom on that thread and laughs on how to deal with toxic, dysfunctional families.

@binkie163 she absolutely loves drama and conflict. Her whole life is drama. I have never actually looked at it from the point of view of her breeding conflict between siblings. That’s a really good point you make. I will definitely search for that, thank you.

@mamaxbear My mother is the same, see you at stately homes, sounds like you need it x

You mention trauma, toxicity, drama and it also sounds like she's splitting. Could these be indicators of EUPD in your mum? Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters' by Karen Anderson is an interesting read.

hi, potentially. She would never admit there is something wrong with her though and seek help. If we brought that up to her she would kick off, which is something nobody wants. I also wondered whether there’s some bipolar in the mix. Who knows.