Narcissist Mother

[BigDonna77]

I cut most ties with my narcissist mother a decade ago.

Recently my very ill sister died. Mum cannot understand why haven't flown down to take her my arms and tell everyone what a great mother she is.

They've concealed the funeral date from me, Not that I'd go, it will be all about my mother.

But they've sent me a load of old happy family photos from childhood, but the child in the photos isn't my sister, it's me!

Can anyone figure the twisted logic behind this behaviour, other than just the usual narc mind feck?

Trying to suck you back in.... Ignore.

Indeed ignore this from your mother. It’s hoovering behaviour on her part trying to suck you back in.

I would further lower all contact levels with her. It is not possible to have a relationship with someone this disordered of thinking.

Update, funeral was a couple of weeks ago.

I've now started getting flying monkey attacks from people who never bothered with my sister for not attending, when they did, some from other countries.

Something clicked. Only a narc would want as many peeps as possible to attend.

But how did these people pay for international flights and hotels?

They didn't, nor did my parents. They used my sisters money, for people who hadn't seen her in decades, to fly over to UK.