Anyone else with zero gamily outwith own kids?

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Just pondering how usual my family situation is. Only child and fucking weird family dynamic. Bio dad left when I was 3 so no contact with his family and he is dead now. My dad who raised me had passed and my mother fell out with all his family who I knew as my family growing up but by extension no longer speak to me since dads death. Mum has lost most of her siblings and no contact with any that are still alive.

wow that was long. When she dies I have absolutely no family other than my husband and 2 kids. Honestly all I need and am lucky to have his mum who is an amazing mil and gran. I guess I worry for my kids when me and their dad and gran go there is no extended network for them. I get so jealous when I hear of people with cousins and aunties etc and feel for my kids they don’t have that.

With health conditions that my mother has she could go anytime and it’s just been on my mind if it’s unusual to have very little family. Hoping I’m not sounding like I am feeling sorry for myself it’s more my kids I wish they had cousins and aunties etc.

@Gallowayan please don’t take me wrong I totally agree with what you say and know and appreciate so many people have less than me I know how lucky I am. It’s just in the back of my mind that when my mum does die I have zero birth family behind me if that makes sense. Perhaps makes me think of my own mortality more and wish there was a bigger network behind me for my kids. In no way do I not appreciate what I have I know I am very lucky trust me I went through hell to have 2 kids which is probably why I wish I had more of a network to leave them in should something happen to me.

@greyhairnomore yes that’s what I hope for them also. Or whatever it is that will make them happy and secure in their future.

Sadly yes... only child here. Both parents passed recently so I have my husband and my son.

He has his mum and siblings (2) still. It is quite scary and I wonder about having another baby do my son won't be like this, although he had half siblings.

I'm an only child. Parents are gone; DH died nearly 3 yrs. I'm lucky that I still have (mainly older) cousins.

I spent most of my married life caring for my parents to some and then a large extent. DH's health took a turn for the worse a few years after we married. 10 yrs ago, he had a stroke.

DH was brought up as only child but - when he was 62 - found out that he had a half-brother and sister.

I don't see them very often, but it means that I now have the unexpected blessing of being a great-aunt.

DH did have two children and a grandchildren - all adults - but they went NC a couple of months after my husband's funeral. (It's a long story.)

I'm very pleased for the OP's children that they have one another. Frankly, if you don't have children of your own, being without a sibling means that you can feel quite lonely. In my case, it's exacerbated by the fact that I gave up my job 2 yrs earlier than expected because of my husband's health and my boss's unwillingness to cut my hours.

I'm lucky, in that I'm still in contact with a couple of the girls who worked with me. They're both married now and one has a child. They're possibly the closest that I have to family of my own. Unfortunately, they both live a distance away now, but they've been kind enough to keep in touch.