Why do i feel like everything I do is wrong

[Beanscene]

All my life I've felt that most decisions Ive made are wrong. It's the same at work with any decisions I've made...although nobody has pulled me up yet to say that am wrong but I feel like am sitting waiting on a call to be told that am crap everyday . I also feel like everyone doesn't like me and are only pretending to be nice to me. Or only talk to me because they feel sorry for me. This isn't just work but everyday life too. I feel like DH is with me because he feels like he has to be as married me and needs to be loyal and has no choice.
Thought this would get better older I've got.... But no.

I think everyone can have moments in life where they can feel this a little but not ‘forever’ is there a specific reason you feel this way? Something that triggers this? I can’t imagine for one second that your DH married you for the reasons given. Everyone has their own great qualities - you must know some of yours?

Have you ever had any therapy?

Sounds like you have imposter syndrome and low self worth.

It's far more likely your husband is with you because he wants to be.

@ZebraD this sounds really so sad to say but if you asked me to write down any great qualities I would struggle as can't think of any. I am not looking for a pity party or anything but just wondered if anyone else felt this way and how they overcame it.

@category12 never had therapy, not sure it would work... Plus can't afford it

Re. work, it sounds like you may have imposter syndrome - there's lots of good advice about this online.

Start making a. List
40 things i like or do well
U can start with even one
Go back to it at least once a week
And really try n tbink of things
Work on ur self esteem
Counselling if u contact living well consortium you can self refer and its free
Or even cbt they donlots of things
Loving yourself postive affirmations
Write down things your grateful for
I have this but i have BPD and trauma as a child so my core' believes im not good enough so most of everything i do i question

@Beanscene you have described me perfectly - every single one of those thoughts I think about myself multiple times per day

There would be a waiting list, but you should be able to get a few sessions via your GP. Perhaps that is a place to start.

I'm wondering what your relationship is like with your parents, whether you have siblings, and how you felt when you were a child.

@quivers dont want to say too much as might be outing as I know a few people who use MN. But from large ish family and am a middle child. Parents were pretty strict but not terrible. I remember always feeling like everything I did was wrong as a child

I had an intense period of this - and there was a trigger. About 6 weeks after my dad tired I was overwhelmed with the feeling that every decision that I'd ever made in my life. I couldn't think about anything else for weeks. Not sure how this could be helpful for you - but maybe there some other difficult feelings or trauma to resolve before you can get out of it.

I totally understand - fully appreciate it’s not a pity party.
have you done anything kind for anyone - any good deed? Anything helpful? Could you describe it?

That's where all this comes from then, isn't it? You never felt that anything you did was ever good enough to please them, and it has really damaged your self-esteem.

I'm so sorry you were made to feel like that as a child, it's heartbreaking really.

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OP, there will almost certainly be a root cause originating in childhood, especially as you say you have always felt like this. Please do what you can to afford therapy. Some areas still offer self referral via IAPS which is free, but have a chat with your GP first and see what they suggest. All the best, you deserve to be listened to and to have self worth, you just need a little help to believe it.