I wouldn't quite categorize this as gaslighting, but just had an enraging discussion with DH about our plans for next spring. We were supposed to move out of our rental next March, but extended until June. I raised this with the landlord today; he seemed surprised. I couldn't say anything definite, as the discussions have always been between him and my husband. I mentioned LL's confusion to DH today, DH immediately said: where did you get the idea of June? Um, from the signed extended lease, that you explicitly extended, and all the discussions we've had about LL's proposed sale of the property where you've said - no problem, at least he can't kick us out until June. Also, the more minor, but very real, discussions we've had about why we would be mad to move away before spring in this place that is very delightful in spring. And how lucky it is we can accommodate visitors in this lovely space until next June.
I'm just gobsmacked: we've had SO many conversations, and we have a literally signed lease extension, and yet I'm the one who's bonkers for thinking we can be here until June? This may be relevant, but both DH and LL are men who are older than I am - am I dealing with a case of collective older male dementia??
This is obviously not a case of marriage-ending gaslighting - but I'd love to hear your stories of knowing you were absolutely fucking right/justified, and people just kept bleating bullshit at you in opposition. It's mind-boggling!!