Men grrr

[Puttingmytreeup]

I am due my baby girl next week & OH has announced that whilst he's off he plans to clear out the spare room, prepare to decorate it & may start a course. What a way to stress a new mum out. Am I being unreasonable in thinking he should be off to help me at this time?

First baby? He's in for a bit of a surprise when he realises all his plans are about to go to shit.

What an idiot.

No 4th bubs

Then he's got no excuse for his idiocy.

Well if it's 4th surely it's easy to talk to each other about it? Remember baby #2 or #3, I needed x, y z?

On the other hand maybe he feels pressure to sort out all sorts of family things as with so many children there is very little time to do non-urgent important stuff. Perhaps he feels he can make a better contribution doing that and looking after the older ones?

He can clear out the room this weekend. Tell him he can do a course when the new baby is at school.

How did he spend the postpartum time with the first three?
Was he involved and helpful?

Ha! My post partum doula says this is very common. Men finding a 'protect' to work on.

Amongst my antenatal group, the men became sudden cyclist fanatics, decided that it was a good time to start a new tech project, and took up a new sport. Until we all put them on the 'correct' path.

I guess it's fine if both you and the baby are fed, watered, happy and sleeping... but he needs to be able to drop everything a moment's notice to support you and your baby!

4th kid? Maybe he thinks you're a pro now and don't need so much support? I'd sit down with him and clearly outline how he can support you at that time.