Is this fair?

[Bananasinpyjamas1988]

I am currently off work undergoing cancer treatment but still on full pay. Partner is unemployed and searching for jobs. Split childcare 50/50 I would say and I do pretty much all other housework.

is this a fair split? Appreciate job hunting takes time, and partner has adhd. But I just feel overwhelmed and resentful and unappreciated, if I’m honest.

Op have you got a mortgage? My best mate had cancer and treatment and the mortgage was paid off via the bank...

They offer payment holidays but then the interest will just add up so no point for us as I will go back to work soon.

No of course it's not fair. Job hunting is time consuming but cancer treatment also takes time and is draining. He needs to step up! I hope your treatment goes well OP

I think the PP was referring to life/health/PPI insurance to cover the mortgage- worth checking if you have it as some will pay out if you have cancer

Could your partner ask the job centre to reduce his commitments while he has caring duties?

You are doing majority of the housework whilst going through cancer treatment whilst your partner doesn't even have a job?!?! What a pathetic excuse for a partner. He should be doing more than you

Can you get imagine a woman saying:

My husband is doing all of the housework and half the childcare while having treatment for cancer: I’m unemployed, help out with the kids and I don’t need to do anything else as he still gets full pay.

Wait, you had me at 'I do all of the household work'.
Why?
In what reality is this still acceptable?
Are you sending this message from the 1950?
Why?
Again, why?
No, this is not fair. It wasn't fair even when you didn't have cancer and he wasn't unemployed. No! If he lives in the house, he can take care of it too.
You're not his mother, you're his partner. He needs to act like it or you're better off being single. At least then you know not to expect any help.