Escorts and partner

[missR1990]

Hello, I’m driving myself insane as I can’t talk to anyone about it but I found out 18 months ago my partner was searching up loads of escorts on vivastreet, he told me he was looking for work on there and I was being ridiculous! I found these searches a few times after also. 18 months on I’ve seen nothing else but he deletes his search history, why is it still bothering me am I being ridiculous?? I can’t get it out my head :( we have a baby together so I don’t want to bring it up

So sorry OP. I wouldn't believe him for a second. Can you tolerate this in the long term? I couldn't, but I know it's hard when you have a young baby. You deserve so much better.

Awful! Have you had a child with him since you found that out?

I found my now ex-DH using an escort site 6 weeks after having our baby, so I can totally empathise.

I could never find proof he had met an escort and he made up similar excuses about why he was on the site.

I tried to put it behind us but months later I discovered he had been cheating on me (not with escorts, but other women he'd met online)

I'll never know if he did go with escorts but I suspect he did, or at least was intending to.

It was a horrible time, and spelled the end of our marriage. There's no smoke without fire I'm afraid.

So sorry OP. I know this is hard to hear. Please don't let him gaslight you and make you think you're the one going mad, this is solely on him and shows who he is!

Thanks for your reply, I’m literally driving myself nuts over it! I wonder if he’s still doing it behind my back. Although he’s always with me apart from when he’s working! Don’t even know why he was searching for them in the first place while claiming he loves me! Men 😅

I wouldn't normally advocate snooping, but if you know his phone password take a sneaky peek at his phone for mobile numbers not saved in his contacts and Google the numbers.

That's how I found out mine had not just been looking, but had actually phoned. He denied it at first, then tried the, "I called but didn't go ahead", then finally admitted it (though still minimised). I'd already decided that just looking was enough for me, but maybe it's not enough for you, especially with a small child.

Yes, he convinced me how much he loves me and wanted a baby with me :(

I’m still really hurting even though he denied it all, we have such a good relationship I just can’t understand why he would do that!

I’m so sorry you went through that :( what is wrong with these men?! I did find a couple of numbers back along on google, on search nothing came up but escorts came up on google images I don’t know how accurate this is? I couldn’t find a specific escort just loads came up xx

Mine I found linked to specific ads (for massages) on Viva Street, but since legit massage places don't advertise on there it was clear these were the type of places offering "extras"

Why would he delete his history if nothing dodgy?

So true, I’ve been thinking this also! Also he now deletes all his Facebook searches...