Rude to just walk away?

[Catladyireland]

I have been seeing someone over the past year or two and it's been complicated. He causes me a lot of stress and has treated me pretty badly in the past. This caused us to break up. He has improved since breaking up but I can't forget and sometimes I feel like a relationship coach.

We talk every day, haven't seen one another in a while as he's in another country working but we're in constant contact but I realise it's not adding to my life. I think it would be best for us both if I just block/ignore. I've tried to send a message before saying goodbye but we always end up back in touch. Is it rude to just block for my own headspace?

If you don't think he would respect your wish to stop contact then just block.

If you want this person out of your life, and the only real way to make that happen is to block them, then it isn't rude, it's necessary.

It's not rude at all, just block and move on , or for some kind of closure, send a short message to explain how you feel say goodbye wish him him well then block him from everything

Personally I'd send a message to say it wasn't working for you anymore. Very brief and to the point, then block everywhere

It’s not rude. You broke up, you don’t have to have any contact at all with him.

^This^

A brief message telling him you are breaking off contact then block on every platform.

Good luck.

No, it's not rude.

The guy has treated you badly and is now using you as an emotional support human.

I'd say it was more like having a good boundary.

One last message saying you won’t be in touch going forward and you wish him well. Then block.

This ^^

You have history with him so maybe add that you think it's for the best you don't keep in contact any longer.

So he's keeping you on as his counsellor? No, that's not something you need to do.

I should have said by relationship coach, I meant between him and I. As in, he came back to Dublin between jobs and I was excited to see him. He went back to America and didn't see me. When I messaged how weird that was to me, he said he was nervous to see me as we haven't seen each other in a while. In my mind, if you're talking everyday you should see one another when nearby!

Nobody owes anybody a relationship. Just block him.