I've name changed because I'm a fairly frequent MN user.
I've stayed in a long and abusive relationship for much longer than I should have because DC have additional needs.
To cut a long story short, DH raped me as I slept over a number of years. I posted at the time and had lots people on here explain it was abusive, I did know that, but because my kids have severe SEN it was not a good time to end the relationship. What I did do was throw my DH out of the bedroom and fwiw for the last 4 years he has stayed in a separate room and has not laid a finger on me.
But he still isn't being kind or fair or respectful. We've just come off a city break with the kids where he's shown me that he continues not to care about me. I think he is undiagnosed autistic, (both kids are autistic) but nonetheless, what do I do now?
There will never be a good time to end this relationship. He has the power, financially as I had to give everything up to be full time carer to our now nearly adult kids. what do I do now?