friend needs advice urgently

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my friend is 15 weeks pregnant and yesterday she said she had something to tell me....

the baby is not her dps. she had a one night stand outside a club and the baby belongs to this bloke - she doesn't even know his name. it cant be her dps as they are very careful, always using comdons. he was shocked at first but has come round to the idea of a brother or sister for there ds who is 2.5.

there is also the added problem that the bloke she slept with is black, her and her dp are both white. the baby will be mixed race and very obviously not dps.

she doesnt know what to do. if she confesses to dp he will leave her and she loves him loads. her only excuse for what happened is that she was very drunk and can hardly remember it happening, she doesnt go out very much but it was her 20th birthday.

her dp is 22 and they have been together for 4 years, she says she cannot confide in her family as they would be disgusted at her behaviour and have never really gotten over her having ds at a young age and the fact that shes 'living in sin' doesnt help either.

i didnt know what to say and was basically very shocked to say the least. i dont know what to tell her - can anyone advise please?????

im definatly going to stay out of it. wont see much of her for a couple of weeks as we're on christmas holidays from college. hopefully she'll have seen sence by the time we go back and tolod him. at least that way i wont feel party to her lies.

it is really good that i can ask for advice on mumsnet because it was just one of those situations were you have to get the veiw of someone else and theres no one you can ring because your supposed to be keeping a secret. mumsnet doesnt count as breaking some ones confidence does it? i dont think so.

some christmas they're going to have....

lol, def not hon, (it's not like we're gonna rung over to her and say... oooh u never guess what XXX just told us) at least u have the benifit of advice from independant people.

am off to bed now but i really appriciate being able to get advice from sensible bright people. am just glad that at the end of the day its not my problem.

incase you didnt know, my usual name is mikeyjon but im being festive.

thanks again ladies xxx