Lonely with husband

[shanty15]

I feel so lonely with my husband. He's exhausted, I'm exhausted. We have 5 year old twins and say we go for a walk, we can't have a conversation. We're too knackered at night to talk.

We both work full time and I was home with them for a while as childcare was expensive and I had a low paying job at the time.

He doesn't have any family or friends. His friends are my friends but he'd never contact them or initiate a meet up.

I work all week in a lonely job really. I'm the lowest paid in my department and staff aren't particularly kind or understanding of anyone. They've all been there a long time.

I try my best everyday but recently, I just feel so tired and I've stopped trying with my husband.

Sorry you're feeling like this.

Maybe it's worth going to the doctor and talking about how you're feeling in case it is depression?

If you're not happy at work, maybe you could look for another job or move to a different department? I know it's a bit of a slog going through the job-seeking and interview process all over again, but I think we spend too much time at work to be unhappy there.

Do you ever get child-free evenings together?

Do you have family nearby? Can you meet up with kids friends? Aren't the twins just cute and adorable?

Can you take some holiday together? Not go anywhere, just spend the time at home reconnecting and de-stressing..

Or plan Christmas so you get to focus on having fun, the four of you. Lazy mornings, then going to the local pub for lunch, or the town leisure centre, meeting your neighbours etc.

Shrink your world down, until you can cope with more.