Has anyone met their partner online…

[Losinghopet]

…but in the past year? And late 30s?

If so, which platform and how old are they?

Sorry this is quite niche. Just wondering if there are any recent successes so I continue looking or whether I give up.

I'm early 40s so a little older, and met new guy (late 40s) in June this year on Match.com.
He was my second date, lots of messages with others that went no where, one guy I had a date arranged with cancelled on the day 🤔

I started OLD last October, first time ever as was in a 24yr relationship previously. I've heard all the horror stories but luckily didn't get too many weirdos. I just tried not to take it too seriously because of all the let downs. But I am extremely happy with new guy, he's wonderful 😊

Why strictly in the last year?

If it’s still helpful…
I met my partner online dating in 2020, both 35, on Tinder.

Now we’re married, with mortgage on first house together with 3 cats. Couldn’t dream of a better man

I’ve been with my partner around 20 months, and we met on tinder. I was really strict and didn’t entertain anyone who didn’t look like they wanted a relationship 😂 it worked, and he’s lovely. I’m not sure what it’s like now though x

Sorry I was 37 at the time

I met my wonderful man online 3 months ago and we're living the dream. Couldn't have found a better one actually. We're middle/late 40's

Found my lovely OH on Bumble!
Only dating app I liked as I could make the first move and I didn't receive a single di*k pic from any of my matches either; massive green flag!

I wish I had a good/positive story to share, but none of my late 30s/early 40s have had any luck meeting anyone for a serious relationship on OLD or IRL in the past 2-3 years. Everyone they seem to meet is out of a long term relationship/marriage and doesn’t know what they want/wants to see what is out there or is looking to settle down with someone who is 5-10 years younger. This is both OLD and IRL. It seems to be a very tough age to meet someone for a meaningful relationship although I am sure that there must be some success stories. Sending you lots of sympathy!

Well, to counter, two of my girlfriends (late 30s) met their partners (same age) 2 and 3 years ago. One is engaged. Both met on Hinge.

I doubt that things have changed that much in the last year so if your friends had positive experiences they can hopefully give you pointers as to how to succeed/review your profile etc. I think they were amongst the minority of those who are successful on OLD, and it would be interesting to find out how long they were on OLD before they met their DP. Whilst every single person I know has been on OLD and research shows that up to or more than 50% of single people have used OLD, research shows that only about 10% of marriages start online for anyone over the age of 30 https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/dating-in-the-digital-age/202310/unpacking-the-online-dating-effect?amp

Dating apps are designed to keep people on there to generate more revenue, and it is in their interest to keep you single. Jon Birger has some intresting thoughts on this, and you may also want to look at this research (not sure how it would translate into users on bumble/hinge) to put things in perspective

https://news.sky.com/story/amp/almost-two-thirds-of-tinders-users-are-already-in-a-relationship-and-half-dont-even-want-a-date-12920718

I should also add that my experience isn’t necessarily representative since it is relevant for London which can prove challenging even for single people in their 20s.

I would love to hear an update in six months/a year if you decide to go via the OLD route and are happy to share the outcome of your experience.

Depends! Late 30s London here. I met someone who I really liked. Dated seriously for a year then he suddenly dumped me like a hot potato and is now dating someone else. I thought it was a success initially as well! So... make of that what you will? Definitely a tighter dating pool. Have high standards.

occhiazzurri oh if we go back more than a few years, almost all of my friends met their partners online

I’ve had two long term bfs from meeting online

I am in London

the stats you refer to are from US and I am certain I’ve seen higher figures for people meeting their partners online

my initial Q was about recent successes Because I feel things may have changed since the pandemic

Ex dh met his new serious partner on tinder. Several friend met decent blokes on tinder as well.

I met my DH on Hinge in 2020, I was in my 30's he was late 20s.

Met my DH on tinder in 2021, we were both in our mid/ late 30s and living in London. We now have a beautiful 3 month old baby girl.
Most of my friends who are of similar age also met their DH / partners online.
I was almost done with dating and deleted my online profiles and a friend told me to reconsider tinder as she said it's the most common known dating sight and even though you will get a lot of people who are just on there for fun, you will also get some decent men on there and she was right.

I met my OH online 4 years ago I was late 30’s. Tinder

Maybe I should try tinder
I was avoiding it as I thought cast majority of men are looking for hook ups on there? That’s what it is famous for?

@Losinghopet I avoided tinder for the same reason but I think on most OLD sites you will come across men who are only looking for hook ups but also some genuine men who are looking for a relationship. I would always make my intentions very clear and let anyone I matched with know what I am looking for but I did find a lot of men would make out they're not looking for a hook up just to get a date but after a while I think you can spot them.
Good luck and don't give up you will meet someone, I was single for 8 years before I met my husband!

I'm mid 40s and met current partner on Bumble last December.

I met ex-DP on Hinge in 2021 in our early 30s. It didn’t work out but it was a very serious relationship headed towards marriage and children before we were faced with an insurmountable problem.

I’m back on OLD and now in my mid-30s, and the quality of men is definitely lower this time round. I’ve not got much hope tbh.

I think the hardest thing is trying to find someone as a single, childless mid- to late-30s woman. Single childless men in their 30s and early 40s don’t seem to be interested.

I met DP on Tinder 20 months ago. He was 42 and I was 43

So far so good

It's taken me YEARS to meet someone acceptable 😂
But I finally did it, just after last Christmas, on Bumble.

Both early 40s and he's the best man I've ever met. I absolutely adore him.

The good ones are out there, you just have to hold on