Online dating question

[Airbuss]

I’m mid 30s

the vast, vast majority of men in their 30s and 40s are looking for something casual or they ‘don’t know’

I’m talking thousands and thousands of profiles

so do all these men want to stay single forever? just get sex on tap?

Why are you going for so much older? Lots of jaded men in 40s not looking for relationships

Don't date guys in their 40s if you are mid-30s, stick to your own age or younger. You think you're widening your pool, in reality you're not, just lowering your standards.

I personally think the golden era of OLD has long gone, it's more a hook-up facilitator.
The marketing emphasises the potential for romance and relationships because they desperately need to attract more women to join because they are so many more men on the apps than women.

(And therefore women and the sex they provide are the product the apps are selling)

Exactly! Do you think many men mid 30s look at women mid 40s? So don't do it either.

I think this is a fascinating topic and as I was considering of online dating I canvassed a few male acquaintances who had dated online and was interested in their (often alternate) views - not saying I agree with them, but interesting perspectives (bear in mind these are middle age chaps, so this may influence the answers)

1. they have felt like they were being interviewed as a a pension plan rather than a person (what car, house, job etc - all bar a full financial audit apparently)
2. women often want casual sex, but seem less willing to be honest about it
3. views on sex seem to differ depending on how attractive the man was or how desirable the woman (were or thought they were) - women seem a lot more liberal if the chap is conventionally very good looking - considerably less so if the chap is average
4. often just come out of a messy divorce and therefore genuinely don’t know what the future looks like for them (loss their shirt the settlement, access to kids issues) - yet some women want a 5-10 year plan before even considering going on a date.
5. companionship was the most commonly missed feature (surprisingly)
6. just as there are some from chaps dating online there are equally grim women…(got told some real horror stories)
7. the same categories/types seem to be prevalent from our youth (the mean girls, the ones that have always got a lot of attention and the ones that got no attention)
8. often coming out of sexless marriages, they admitted that ‘yes’ they did think about sex a lot and also wanted some reassurance that they might have a sex life going forward…

i found it amusing (sorry) that there is a trend in middle aged dating for the looks based ladies (we know who I mean, those with 26 photos, including bikinis) finding themselves on the other side of the bench when they get older….often aggrieved they no longer attracted the type of man they used to (and seemed to think they still should)

in short, sounds like a sh*t show for both sexes and I decided against it (for now…)