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Sister and midlife crisis

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DoneWithWintertime · 05/11/2023 06:00

Ok I’ll try and keep this short and just give the facts .
my sister who is married and is 42 has told her husband she wants a divorce and has proceeded to start a relationship with a man half her age . She has 3 primary aged children .
since she told her DH they have continued to carry on living as normal and I dont think he is aware of her new relationship. I also think this relationship started before she told her DH she wanted a divorce.
she doesn’t seem to care about her children’s well-being and is very quick to have arguments and will yell at her kids if they annoy her. I live a few hours away so haven’t seen this but my mom and her mil are concerned .
does it sound like she is having a midlife crisis ? She seems obsessed with her appearance aswell and looking younger rather than concentrating on her kids and how she is going to manage if she does get divorced.
she has a track record of being very self absorbed and the need for drama .
if it wasn’t for my nephews I would take a step back but do you think this is just her struggling becoming middle aged ? I feel she finally got her life together when she met her DH and he is such a wonderful person but I realise I don’t know their relationship on the inside .
is keeping my distance a bad idea ? I just don’t want to know any of the details but she does tell me when we meet up and I’ve told her I don’t agree with the younger man or am I the one who is out of order ? Should I be more supportive?I just don’t know .

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Autiebibliophile · 05/11/2023 06:09

It sounds like she's unhappy and stressed. Have you tried to talk to her about why? The younger man is probably a distraction/fantasy from real life.

alwaysmovingforwards · 05/11/2023 06:14

She's a cheater and will get the life she deserves.

DoneWithWintertime · 05/11/2023 06:19

we did talk about her feeling unhappy and I tried to give advice and she seemed to want to give her marriage a good try as she didn’t want to hurt her kids or DH but then suddenly finished things and started seeing this man ?

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