Is it wrong to expect him to care more?

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Today I slipped over on the steps of my MIL’s house and bumped my head. I felt woozy and headachy afterwards - not too bad but definitely shaken up. My husband has been snapping at me all evening coz he’s angry that it could happen to his grandad or his mum’s postman. He insists he’s not angry with me but doesn’t seem to understand why I’m upset. Am I wrong to expect more?

You’re not wrong. What a bell end.

No. The way people treat you when you are unwell and needing sympathy and care shows you exactly who they are and how much they care. I hope you are ok and your head doesn't hurt too much

No this is not ok. I never understand why some people get angry at their supposedly loved ones when they hurt themselves or fall ill.

My ex husband shouted at me 3 days after I gave birth. I had a c section with stitches all across my stomach. Also the baby blues. I was having a little cry and I will never forget him shouting at me saying 'what are you crying for? I've got arthritis, I'll have that for the rest of my life, you will be better soon?'

Never ever forgot it. When they shout at you when you are at your most vulnerable, there is something wrong.

Hope you're ok op, sending you the love you should be receiving at home ❤️

No, that's horrible.

How are you feeling now? Bumping your head can be very serious so watch your symptoms over the next 48 hours.

He sounds like an arse.

If you are still headachy now give 111 a call, they may suggest you get it checked out now.

He’s snapping at you when you don’t feel well and hurt yourself because he’s worried about his Mum’s postman possibly falling over on some steps!?

No, definitely not ok. He sounds like an arse.

No, I would want more care and consideration after a fall. Maybe he’s anxious about what could happen to others but it’s no excuse to snap at you. Hope you’re okay.

What? This doesn’t even make sense?! He’s snapping at YOU because his mother’s steps are dangerous and the POSTMAN might slip?

Is the man clinically insane?

Thanks everyone. Felt encouraged by your replies so I told him this morning that I felt he’d treated me badly. He did apologise - though of course it remains to be seen what he’d do if it happened again. My head is better this morning - think it was the shock of it all as much as anything. @rougeroses i’m so sorry to hear your OH was so unkind to you. I’ve got psoriatic arthritis and it does suck but it’s not pain top trumps - nobody should ever try to invalidate your pain with their own. xx