Straw that broke the camel's back?

[Ohwhatadag]

Bitterness alert!

I have another thread, but I've been on the wine. And the vitriol/dark humour is flowing (with the wine!).

Anyway, today i walked into a pub and asked them did they actually close at 3:30 am as my husband told me, or at 2 am as their website said? And had this been the case for the past 6 months? Hipster barman very kindly tells me that it has always been 2 am.

The mortification of a desperate 50-year-old.

This of course leaves me wondering what the fuck dh has been doing between 2 am and 4 am when he eventually arrived home (I was awake)?

Especially after he assured me that the website was wrong and closing time had changed since march. Literally, a conversation we had 5 minutes prior to me going "Fuck this. The pub is in the area. i'm asking them".

I gave him fucking hell at home after. I believe i mentioned (yelled!) something about narnia at the back of wardrobes and kids lying and bringing their friends home to show them. Something about staying in the relationship is like big brother making you believe 2 + 2 = 5. But he fucking hung his head in shame - for once. He couldn't gas lighting his way out of this.

Btw: he was shagging another woman - fact: i saw the texts. He's not even fucking of subnormal intelligence. (He is, but is a wanker who thinks i am the stupid one.)

And breathe.... I only meant to write 2 lines, but got carried away. What are your stories of liars, wankers and/or gas lighters?

Wow, good to get it off your chest!! What a chuffing arsehole, good for you giving him what for.

When someone deceives you but completely pulls the wool over your eyes, it makes you feel stupid but you can hand on heart say “they completely had me fooled” and when the initial grief etc. subsides you realise that THEY were the fool and not you…. but when they don’t even have the decency to be smart about it, it’s doubly insulting. Like, be a twat but don’t insult my intelligence.
Sort of sounds like he wanted to get caught if you ask me. Unless he really does think you were born yesterday.

are you still married to him?

o , can you just sign this , it’s to change my extra holiday perk to some other random perk …. Que divorce number of years later as he was as an arse of highest order … actually the paperwork had been to take on an extra 8 mortgages ( so now 9 ) and it was interest only 🤦‍♀️pillock was too frightened to tell me at mediation … hid while the Mediator told me ! Hay ho , pour me a glass 🤣

Yep...still married to him. This happened today.

I am flippant and hamming it up to a certain extent. I am devastated that he is not the man that I thought i married (14 years ago). I am devastated he would come up with such shit when it splits up our daughter's world.

I am pissed and can only deal with dark humour.

Life was like an onion. I was peeling back later upon layer of lies.
He left so many clues lying around; in the spare room paper bin, on something he’d bought for his garden, in his car. It was so insulting and he forgot that by nature I’m a researcher.

Slowly slowly I gathered the evidence including the hotel bill in his wallet. Took screen shots of text messages. Confronted him! Boom! He was blown away. Literally.
Don't mess with me Buster.

MrsFawkes Fair fucks to you. Well done! Why do they assume we are stupid?

I should imagine he's gonna miss you if you dump him.

He will get bored with the foolish ones.

Sending a digital hug. I think you need it. ❤️

I’m so sorry, @Ohwhatadag.

After you discovered his affair, I assume he agreed to the recovery requirements of fidelity, honesty and transparency — and yet he’s been lying about his whereabouts for the past 6 months. You’ve been investing in a false reconciliation.

He’s a faithless, lying, self-serving wayward who’s blown his second chance. He couldn’t care less about restoring your trust and helping you heal. Your child’s well-being is certainly not one of his priorities.

The title of your thread should be a statement, not a question.