Help!

[northernmummy2]

What would you do if you suspect a guy has cooled off? Been emailing and talking to a guy from the past for a few months- live along way apart.

At first it was all him, then 50/50, now it seems to be be me making all the moves, though he replies fairly enthusiastically when I email or phone. I know he wouldn't say he didn't want it at all...for various complex reasons- but I am afraid of asking how he feels in case I get an answer I don't want. Hang back or ask?

Personally I would ask, the longer the does he-does'nt he thing goes on the more likely you are to have invested emotionally in him, and the harder you'd fall if he lets you down. Really hope everything goes well. .

Thanks.

I am really confused over what to do. He was very OTT initially, though it all began as a friendship- and still is really, although he has made other noises, which I haven't really responded to, as he is separated and they could end up back together. I don't want to open up, as he might say "Did you really think there was any more to this than being friends", but I know there was an undercurrent- and it seems to have died. Just want to know what's what really, without looking stupid. Do you just read the signs - or ask and risk looking silly?

hi there. I think you should ask. Have you met him in rl? Are you sure he is seperated?

Yes to both! 100%.

well then. Sorry to be so personal but how did you get on? How did you feel when you were together? Did he feel the same?

Great- but I held back as it was a date on the "friendship only" footing, though at the end he said it could be something else- I was so gobsmacked that id i didn'tknow what to say!

and how has it been since? More towards relationship?

No- backed off a bit. Not so many emails , very mixed messages.

I am worried about going into too much detail here, as you never know whose reading- but all I want to know really is, is it the "done thing" to confront a guy, or is it a bit pathetic, when the writing seems to be on the wall?

am on msn if you wanna chat. Of course you are not gonna be pathetic. Would you rather just not know either way? It may not be the answer you are looking for but hey its not earth shattering at this stage. Or he could be your soulmate. I would just ask.

thanks.