Hi all I have just come out of a relationship after 14 years living as friends for 2 years . I met someone who I have just really got to know the past 2 months after seeing each other on and off for 8 months (please don't come at me for cheating as it was very unlike me ) I was in a bad place , insecure etc ... he has made it clear he wanted to take me out on dates and I was not interested as wasn't ready and I am still not ... he he has 2 young children with the ex who he has been split from for 16 months ... he has said he can't bear the fact of meeting someone and moving them in bringing up their kids and not his own, he does not love her etc (I am not that naive to with men j promise ) as I stayed for my kids even though I don't love him !!! So he is going back to her I get it I really do as I know of men that do it and I was the same .. but I am gutted ! I don't think he was the one for me but is it because I can't have him now and so so unhappy at home (as my ex is here for another 2 months due to finances ) I have cried etc and hate the thought of him being with her which I am ashamed off ... I told him I wanted to date him but it is too late now and he said he never thought I would see him like that. I think when my ex moves out I can move on but I don't know whether I feel like this because he took my mind if my situation or is him ... sorry to ramble