Lonely 😢

[Rachaelc1981]

Hi, I’m not sure why I am sending this, maybe so it feels like I am talking to someone 🤷‍♀️ I am 42, married with 6 children )3 step children, 2 still live at home). I have never felt so lonely in my life. My husband and I hardly ever have time to spend together, I have no friends, my 2 step children are all for their dad (had brought them up as a single dad from a very young age) so I feel like a total outsider. My 3 youngest are 11,8 and 2.5, I have children around me 24/7. They don’t listen to a word I say, I feel like a babysitter. I am so down and frustrated as they don’t listen to me or do anything I ask of them. I have done all the disciplines and punishments but nothing works. I have no family or friends to talk to or have some kind of release. No need to comment as I just wanted to feel like I was talking to someone. Ohh and today is my wedding anniversary 😢

I’m sorry that you feel this way. I don’t think I have much practical advice, other than be kind to yourself. Could your husband watch the children for one evening per week so that you can do something for yourself - a hobby, gym, book club,… whatever you fancy, just to get out of the house and maybe have some social interaction?

Have you thought about going back to work or trying some baby groups both helped me feel
less alone, I started meeting some of the mums outside of the groups as well socially and when you go back to work you feel like your not swamped with children and have actual adult conversations just a suggestion as like I said it helped me enormously