Hi. We've been married for 9 years (I'm 33). We have 2 children (2 and 7 years old) and no relatives to help. I'm a SAHM. And I often feel very lonley, although DH spends all free time with me and kids. Both of us didn't have a parent's role model of a married couple. Sometimes I wonder if it is okay to feel certain ways in marriage or not. My parents passed away. My mum used to tell me that I'm beautiful and smart and used to give me a support and appreciate what I was doing, I felt valued. And my husband rarely does these. I tend to ask him if I look good, he won't say if I don't ask. I'm not even expecting any compliments. When there is something that worries me, he will mostly say that there is nothing to be bothered about. We rarely hug each other during the day. Some days he won't talk to me unless I do something and he thinks I'm doing it wrong (like, please, don't leave the iron on the floor as little one may plug it in). I don't feel myself loved woman. I feel like a carer, house worker and a neighbour. Please, tell me is that expected after 9 years of marriage. Or are we moving in a wrong direction?