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Scared to move places

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user1465378510 · 01/11/2023 01:05

Hi all.
I came to the UK from another country to join my husband. We lived in a big city for 6 years. Then he was inited to a job (promotion) and we moved to a small town. At the beginning we thought we'll just stay there for 2 years and move back to the city. Now 3 years have passed. My husband wants to change job due to stress levels.
I totally support him. But he doesn't want to stay in the small town we are now nor move back to the city we were previouseley. He wants to move elsewhere and try something new.
I find this situation very sad. I'm so scared to move again. We have 2 children (7yo, 2yo). I used to wfh before 2nd baby and now I'm a SAHM. So I spend a lot of time at home. It takes a lot of effort to build new friendship, to find people who I can trust. I felt lonley so many times during all my years in the uk, during last 3 years in town.I'm slowly building my social circle. We haven't got any relatives to help with children. And now he wants to move to try something different. And I feel like I won't cope. I know these experiences are supposed to make us stronger but I don't feel any excitement. He hasn't done much effort building friendship and he says he isn't bothered about it. I wonder if it is something about me, or maybe our marriage? I also worry about moving child from school.

OP posts:
DustyLee123 · 01/11/2023 06:55

You are reliant on your husband because you aren’t self sufficient, which means you’re very likely to move if he wants to.
If there’s any cracks in your marriage I’d advise you to get back to work, so that you can support yourself.

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