Replies to text messages, out of the dating game a while!!

[Peaceofmind89]

I have been out of the dating game a while, 4yrs to be exact, last relationship was abusive and also had a v.young dd who is now 5 so finally got back into dating

I was/am taking to a guy, everything with great at first, just getting along, no talk of sex though there was a clear attraction. Had a date which went well, said he wanted to see me again. And now, he doesn’t reply to my messages for well over a day.. I can see he has been on WhatsApp as he has looked at a status I put up. But I just don’t know if I’m being unreasonable about this.. of course I wouldn’t expect him to reply quickly, we all have work etc but a full day and to be online too!! Someone please tell me I’m not crazy, I’ve not dated in about a decade but this just seems rude to me

@Peaceofmind89 I would also say he’s not that interested. Or at least not that bothered to keep you interested. Like you say, you aren’t expecting messages 24/7 but he’s clearly online and choosing not to reply to you. In my experience, it’s only ever turned into something proper when the other person has shown genuine interest after the first date and it’s just naturally progressed. How long has it been since your last date?

@alwaysmovingforwards wow, wasn’t basing the quality of a person on their timeliness in replying. I have friends who won’t reply for several weeks. Merely on discovering what I need or want from a potential partner… a reply when he can spend time reading my status isn’t much to ask for. And clearly by your last comment @Watchkeys comment went clear over your head

If he was keen he'd reply straight away.

Couldn't agree more
I'll respond to messages when it's convenient for me thanks
And also extend that courtesy to others

It's not about courtesy @alwaysmovingforwards , it's about preference. Courtesy might say that it's ok to reply to a message anywhere between immediately and 36 hours. Preference can be... anything you prefer. If you've had a rapid fire conversation, and a pertinent question hangs, a few minutes might be too long to wait. 'What are you doing 3 weeks on Thursday?' might invite a more leisurely response.

Comfort with the pace of conversation is an individual thing, and not everybody's view of 'courtesy' is the same.