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Anyone staying because you’re practical?

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Grantshapscat · 31/10/2023 19:39

If we didn’t have a child together, I think I would have come to the end of the road.
But I’m a practical person and know that both staying and leaving have pros and cons. Mainly cons in each case to be honest.
Our marriage is now (on our worse days) nothing more than just a vehicle for raising a child together.
Im resigned to that.
Anyone else in this tribe?

I know all of the counter-arguments and reasoning ‘modelling relationships too DD etc’ but I’ve decided to just settle with this.

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Rocksonabeach · 31/10/2023 19:42

I was happy to be separated to pay for both houses 50/50 and all the costs of the children and love separately - no divorce costs and when the mortgages were paid off I was prepared to take the 3 bed house and give him the 4 bed house and he refused. Cost us £100 K in divorce costs etc both of us single

Strawberryfieldsforeverrr · 31/10/2023 19:57

I think its preferable to stay in a safe, boring relationship where there's no abuse to offer your dc a stable life with the trappings of a 2 income household. Many people do it.

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