Falling for a work colleague and new job offer

[Kelly1999x]

Hi-
I hate my job my boss is picking on me contantly for little things, I have been offered a job somewhere else the only thing holding be back is I think I’m falling for a work colleague. He makes me feel so happy and good about myself everyday. Nothing has happened and probably wont I just really like his company and I think id really miss him. But I cant cope with my boss anymore. Should I take the new job? Its 30 minutes away while my current job is 10 minutes. I also have a 2 year old. Thanks for any advice. X

So you'd consider staying in a job you hate with a boss who picks on you because of a crush?
Are you quite young?

This is not a reason not to take a new job. If anything, you're better off not working together if a relationship should develop.

I’m 30. Yes I know it sounds crazy, I just hope I wont regret leaving I feel like it is a risk leaving a job.

That’s true he is very professional as well so probably would be more chance If I took a job somewhere else. I just hope we don’t lose contact. Do you think 20 minutes extra drive is worth it? I have worked at the place before and liked it there.

Leaving might be best for your crush, you could ask him out for a coffee or drinks in a way you couldn’t if you were staying.

Of course there are risk attached to leaving a job, but if you've worked there before and liked it, that reduces the risk quite a bit. You have to take risks sometimes, unless you are happy to stay in the same job for the whole of your career, or until you are forced to change due to restructure or redundancy. If you are not happy in your current job, again, that reduces the risk to an extent as the worst that can happen is that you'll be unhappy in another job - you are not throwing away a job you love.

Only you can decide whether the extra drive is worth it. 20 minutes isn't a lot, in the scheme of things, but this depends on your routine - if it will have any knock-on effects, e.g. childcare if you have children.