Scared of My husband when he drinks

[Ann78]

Hey hope your all well

i have never posted on this before but feel I have nowhere else to turn to . I feel a bit silly but I feel like my husband emotionally abuse me , and he worse with drink on him , I am not a big drinker I enjoy a glass of wine every now and then but in the last 2 years with my husband I don’t like drinking with him anymore,it’s like he changes into a different person , I do a lot of long days and if I drink at home I tend to fall asleep in the chair , so he starts shouting at me saying are you not watching the telly or he will say go to bed he doesn’t know why I bother
so I go to bed fall asleep and he comes up he will pull the whole duvet of me and if I have sone wrapped around me it bloody hurts. Then he won’t talk to me the next day and I will say what’s wrong , he says to me don’t fu**king Start that he’s sick of me saying what’s wrong etc , I say I an only askinf as you don’t seem in good form .but his mood swings without drink are awful he be grand one minute aka next minute it’s like waking in egg shells .

anyway I will leave it there
thank you for reading this

It sounds like you're walking on egg shells all of the time, not just when he drinks. His behaviour is shocking and abusive. It doesn't seem like he's the easiest person to communicate with but he has a drink problem and is likely to be in denial about it. I would try to talk to him about it and how he makes you feel, but ultimately, you need to start thinking about you and whether this is how you want the rest of your life to be. My concern for you is that this could escalate. I left a relationship when my ex partner drank too much. He wasn't abusive, but he would forget important conversations we had and his life revolved around pub opening times. Be strong and start a conversation with him. If he starts shouting or being abusive, leVe the house and start thinking about your future options. Do you both own the house or rent?

How much does he usually drink in a week? You sound very unhappy. Perhaps its time to look for a way out. Are you married/own or rent a house/have kids? Do you work?

He sounds vile, drunk or not. You shouldn't have to live like this. You don't have to live like thus. You deserve better. Amd bring single is 1000 times better than living with a man who abusers you.