Amicable separation/divorce - any positive stories out there?

[Fallinghalloween]

DH and I are splitting up - no third parties, it’s mutual and amicable, even friendly at present (we have had counselling, tried our best but have just grown apart). Have two teenage DC. We are determined to keep things very amicable but is this possible? Any positive stories/tips?

My divorce was very amicable. We’re still on friendly terms and no bad feeling. Not that I know of anyway and none on my side.

We sat down and worked out the finances ourselves. Had the house valued (he bought me out) and listed all other assets etc. we only had a solicitor to write up the financial consent order as we wanted to limit the money spent on legal fees as much as possible.

To be fair my EXH is a very reasonable person and as our romantic feelings had faded I think that made it a lot easier to sort things out. I think when there’s hurt feelings or resentment someone usually ends up getting annoyed and it causes problems so I was very lucky and I realise in the minority.

I had a new patio?

Yeah mine was fine. We used a joint solicitor for the financials/divorce, all amicable.

If you are OK and aligned on financial terms - then amicable divorce is very possible.

Amicable split after 20 years. He gets on fine with DP. I give him dating advice. He looks after my dog. I take him dinner if he's ill. We're having a family dinner with DS tomorrow.

We did it at the right time, before we hated each other.

Oh this is good to hear thanks. I feel like I hear so many horror stories… and my DM insists every divorce is a disaster that ruins everyone’s lives 🙄

I think DH and I genuinely want each other to be happy, and to make things as easy as possible for the DC, but I’m sure a lot of people go into it with the best of intentions…

ExDH and I split last year.
Completely amicable just grown apart, still friends, just no deep feelings for each other. Instigated by him so it was tough but we trued time apart, counselling etc before deciding it was over.
A year on all financial things are concluded and just waiting on the divorce being finalised it's still
Just as friendly. We have no kids but still check in with each other. Help each other out with small thing.
It definitely can be amicable and stay that way.

Be prepared for a lot of people to be a bit confused and question how it can be friendly. That's been my experience. I think divorce usually comes from cheating or some other scandal people don't know how to approach it when things have just ran their course

@NailsHairNipsHeels yes that makes sense - as we’re agreed there is a lot less angst and drama which I can see might be confusing for some - but it is early days.

@NailsHairNipsHeels how old was your son when you separated? Mine is soon to be 4. Its so hard to decide what to do. I love my husband but don't feel like I'm in love with him. We've grown apart. Become more like friends/housemates. No romantic side to the relationship and not sure we can get that back. But such a massive decision to make. Worrying about the impact on my son and wondering if I'll ever actually be happy.