When your BF gets a partner help.

[SparklePopRampage]

Hey all. I meant best friend in the title and can’t change it! I realise now it looks like boyfriend (is isn’t!)

So I don’t have a great emotional support system. I’m learning this through work with a psychologist. My family were never emotionally available/supportive and growing up was traumatic.

As a young person I was therefore emotionally vulnerable and got into exploitative situations. I found building relationships hard and felt all I was good for was sex.

Im now married to a very secure husband, but find I still lack emotional support. I have a dear friend who provides this for me and I provide this for him, but he is currently on a date and I think this one could work out.

Im happy for him and support him, but feel like I’m going to lose him now to a great extent. How can I improve my situation?

Please be mindful that I have had no emotional modelling in my life and have been used and abused because this makes me vulnerable. Thank you for reading 👍

Do you plan to have children OP or so you have children?

I think you and your husband need to get some counselling so that your husband can begin to provide this support you need.

You married a man that doesn’t provide you with any emotional support

This is unlikely to be the case with your best friend’s relationship

It isn’t that he doesn’t want to he just doesn’t know how

And he's incapable of doing a bit of reading, and practicing, and trying to learn?

@SparklePopRampage He's disrespecting you every time he refuses to try to support you, and he's got you trained not to bother him any more. This isn't healthy, you know.

I’ve heard you all. Thank you for your comments. I appreciate it.

Good luck op