I really want kids

[Helloevery1]

Im not a woman (im a 31 year old man) who has always struggled with dating, I have only ever had one GF when I was 25 which lasted three months but she told me that she didnt love me. I really tried with her and I was always taking her out on dates, buying her clothes, I helped out her family and I thought she was well suited for me but unfortinatly never worked out. We didnt have sex and im actually still a virgin but I have always been a quiet man who has never been into partying or getting drunk, I did go on a lads holiday to spain when I was about 21 but it just didnt suit me as im not really into partying. I ended up going to bed at like 12AM while everyone was out partying and going to clubs, I find clubs boring although I dont mind the odd drink but I prefer quiet pubs

I also dont really have much mates as many of them have moved on and had kids. Im 6ft 6 (yeah im tall lol), engineering degree, very athletic as im always at the gym, I make good money, I live in a nice house thats in a quiet village, I take very good care of my appearance but I struggle with women. I also got diagnosed with autism when I was around 15.

I know im still a virgin and I very much desire sex but I aint paying an escort, I also only want sex inside relationships and I just dont know how people can do one night stands tbh as having sex with a random stranger seems unappealing. I didnt have sex with my Ex because I was scared to make a move and we also couldnt find a place or time to do it, she was inexperienced just like me and I remember when we first kissed none of us knew what we were doing lol.

I really want kids and its always been my dream to be a father, thats why I work hard and for years saved because I was hoping to provide for a family. I know of men who are drug addicts, who cheat, who dont work and yet they still manage to find themselfs a woman who they have kids with. My father was a drunk and never looked after us, he defiantly didnt deserve kids and I always thought my mother deserved better as she raised us.

In fact there isnt much point in buying a house and having money saved when you dont have a family

Do you have friends? You need to go out and socialise more. If you want to meet someone you have to take risks emotionally and be prepared to be rejected numerous times. Not everyone you meet will want to be a wife and mother.

I do have friends although I dont see them that much but its always been tricky for me to talk to women as im a quiet man and autistic. I know that Im doing pretty well money wise, im tall, healthy and athletic but I worry about never having my own family. I also dont want to spend ages dating only for a woman to turn around and say that she doesnt want kids.

I remember a few months ago writing a post similar on reddit and people were messaging me telling me to get a mail order bride although im not sure about that

Have you tried OLD?

It's hard being autistic and I think those who are neurotypical have no idea how difficult it to negotiate life never mind relationships.
From what you've written you sound like the kind of person I'd have been interested in getting to know 15 years ago.
I do have children but I'm now on my own and prefer it they way. In my experience relationships aren't what they are cracked up to be and autism just makes everything much more difficult in a relationship.
I hope you find the kind of relationship you are looking for and find happiness.

You said she said she didn't love you after 3 months. Three months is still the getting to know you stage.

It would be odd for someone to profess love so quickly.

Maybe you need to practise talking to people (sorry if that sounds patronising). Try chatting to people you meet eg receptionists, shop staff, people at the gym. Just try small talk, eg the weather, a compliment (you've been very helpful), anything at all. If the conversation develops ask questions and be interested in the answers. Interaction with other people is key to forming relationships so you may need to make a real effort not to be too quiet.

You’re the same guy with that misogynistic rant from the other day aren’t you?
Some lines sound identical, but suddenly you don’t sound like you hate women so much anymore. Maybe you’ll get better advice this time around.