Im miserable

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I need to rant. Im so miserable. So my partners three children are with us every other weekend. All three are ASD and tbh can sometimes be quite challenging. But generally lovely kida who i adore.

My partner is doing my head in. He literally has no interest in these kids bar lookong like the better parent compared to their mother. He brings them up and literally eats dinner with them (which i cook) and then he wants to sit play xbox whilst they amuse themselves and then expects to be able to lie on to lunchtime every weekend. Then when he finally wakes up he sits and vapes in bed drinks coffee and sita on facebook. Literally doesnt have a clue whether they are awake or dressed or fed.

All three need prompting. He doesnt see this. He thinks they shoukd juat be able to get up get washed dressed and feed themselves. Why should he do it?

He conplains theor mum always wanted me time and didnt understand he was tired after work. But yet he will lie and fester in bed half the day??????

Today for example ive been up since 8 as have two of his kids. He lay on to 11 screamed at them to get up get dressed and washed and now hes away to work on a car whilst they all eat sweers for breakfast/lunch.

He expects me to sort them out when they are here and tbh i used to do it for the kods sake but now i dont. They are his kids not mine!!!.

I dread every time they are here tbh and its not because of the kods. I hate him when they are here. Hes such a lazy so and so and he thinks he is gods gift literally.

Cant take critism at all. Will turn it around on to me somehow. Quite frankly this behaviour repulses me. Sorry i just needed a rant.

I'd do what someone else has suggested. Tell him you're going out with friends for the day tomorrow and won't be back until late. Contact friends and make plans but even if they're not free, go shopping, go for a walk or whatever you enjoy doing. I guarantee he will ask who will look after the kids. Then you know how he views you and your relationship then kick him out. If you don't enjoy having sex with him and he makes you feel inadequate, he's adding nothing to your life but grief and you're better off cutting him loose now and finding someone who appreciates you, or just enjoy be on your own for a while. Sounds like he's a child himself. Picture what it could be like another year down the line. It won't change. He makes an effort when you tell him how he and the situation make you feel because he knows he's onto a good thing. He quickly steps back into his old ways once he thinks he's done enough to appease you.

I don't understand why he is there. Are you scared of how he will react if you ask him to leave? Do you need help to get him to go? There is help available.