Have been unhappy for years, been trying to stay together for the kids.
Ex works but drinks too much prefers the pub to home, am suspicious of drug use too.
I finally told him enough is enough and he needs to move out, not married thankfully.
have told the kids 16,13,11 who have all taken it really well ( that was my biggest worry)
he has a flat that becomes free next week.
He is now moping around, crying that he is back to where he was 30 yrs ago.
All he is worried about is money, he never has any despite a well paid job, always in debt.
I am really suspicious he was just cocklodging all this time.
I am so happy and relieved that this is now happening, I feel so free, I will manage and can increase my working hours if I need to.
I know there are lots of parents doing the same thing and I just wanted to offer a glimmer of hope if you are waiting for the right time that it will come.