Getting the spark back

[EmptyYoghurtPot]

DH and I get on fine, been married 16 years and are a great team. I have some MH issues, he has a lot of issues with his DM but we get through everything together. We have a 15 DS who we are very close with. I know a lot of people in our circle see us as ‘the ideal family’.
However, since the menopause I not been interested in sex. I can’t even remember when the last time was. We still cuddle up to watch tv, kiss goodbye etc but nothing more. I didn’t want it and he respected that. He would occasionally gently suggest it and I’d say no and he left it there. But now my sexual feelings have returned and I don’t know how to approach it with him! Plus we have our son, with whom we have always had an open door policy so he could walk in, which makes me nervous!
Anyone else been here? I’d love any advice to get things going again!

I put a little bolt on mine and the kids doors, and I said it’s because they’d be wanting their privacy now they’re teens.
And as for DH, just cuddle up to him and see what happens.

I also put a lock on mine.

If you're not comfortable initiating it at home, get a babysitter if needed, book into a hotel for the night, go for a romantic dinner all dressed up then initiate it once back to the room. It will all become very natural and the sex will follow. Chances are, your husband is crying out for this to gapped between you again. If you can't book into a hotel, get the kids out of the house for a few hours, cook a romantic meal and make your move. It is difficult when it hasn't happened for so long. It makes you feel like a teenager again. I've been there with my husband. He got tired of initiating sex and me saying no or making excuses so when I initiated it, it surprised him and had the desired effect! Men need to feel wanted and desired as much as us women do!

Yep, a night/weekend away and a few drinks to get over the initial awkwardness, and then when you’re post-coitally spooning you’ll find it easy to say that your feelings have changed and you want to do more of it in the future.
And if you can’t afford to go away, have a couple of drinks at home.

Is your teenager home all the time? Could he go to family for the night? If so, I would arrange a night out with your husband, few drinks and home to bed.

I'm teenage so would not want an 'open door' policy on his bedroom door so I'm sure closing it and locking would not preturb him too much.
Why not just explain to your DH the you have your Mojo back, I'm sure he'll be delighted and highly unlikely to rebuff you advances.
Set the mood in the bedroom with some candles and surprise him, I think he'll pick up on the signals quickly enough.

'I'm sure your teenage son' is the start of the post.....