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My life fell apart tonight

41 replies

Smashingpumpkin · 18/12/2004 01:50

Don't even know if ican write this here am so all over the place I juts don't know what to do.Dp has physically and mentally abused me for all of our five year relationship, have never seen myself as the abused woman but put up wih it as couldn't face reality and give up the charade that is my life. Today after a night out with friends dp became very abusive over a programme I was watching on tv. Basically put me down and riducled me in every way possible, don't get me wrong I argued back but it still hurts. Basically I threw a line at him well below the belt, and admit it, can't believe that I sunk to that level, which resulted in torn clothes, a bleeding ear and a massive lump on my head. Well for once i snapped, phoned my parents (he thought I was bluffing) and basicallya dmitted how bad it is, thus causing the end of our relationship. He felt sorry for himself and has left, drunk and in his car. Am hurt beyond belief really don't know if I can face this, please help me

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spacedonkey · 20/12/2004 15:21

Hope you're ok SP X

galaxy · 21/12/2004 13:57

How are things Smashingpumpkin. Hope you're ok.

NameChangingMancMidlander · 21/12/2004 14:00

Oh Smashingpumpkin . I've only ust seen this thread. I hope things are improving for you. Well done you for having the courage to put a stop to his behaviour and telling your family. Have you been to the dr and had your injuries recorded ?

spacedonkey · 21/12/2004 14:02

I am really worried that SP has seen the lavender thread and been put off posting

NameChangingMancMidlander · 21/12/2004 14:07

I hope not, if that is the case, I hope she is lurking and is at least reading the messages of support and genuine concern on here

galaxy · 21/12/2004 14:08

I hope not too. Her experience sounds truly awful and if you are lurking SP, please come back and update us all on how things are.

mammya · 22/12/2004 00:19

SP, just in case you come back (and I hope that you do and you and your kids are safe) here are links to the women's aid website and the refuge website .
Sending you big hugs.

ElectricBlue · 23/12/2004 01:19

SP, I hope you are OK. I also have a violent partner and I know how draining it all is. We all deserve to be happy, we and our children. Hugs and wishes for a happy life. XX

Christmassbee · 23/12/2004 15:41

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galaxy · 24/12/2004 10:40

Sp, Are you around - can you let us know that you're OK?

Christmassbee · 26/12/2004 01:16

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hatterselfamerrymerrychristmas · 28/12/2004 22:53

sp - not sure if this is worth saying right now as you clearly DO feel your life just fell apart. But if this is the end of an abusive relationship - it didn't. It just started. You can pick up the pieces and move on to better things. I hope you find the supoprt you need from friends and family who really care about you. Please come back and let us know how you are. Hugs

SPARKLER1clausiscomingtotown · 28/12/2004 22:56

Where are you SP. So worried about you.

galaxy · 30/12/2004 20:46

Sp, just bumping this to let you know that we are thinking of you.

jollymum · 30/12/2004 21:22

what lavender thread? SP-talk to us, please if you can.sending hugs.xxx

JudgeFlounce · 30/12/2004 21:26

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