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Partner stays out late

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Lauralizzie · 25/10/2023 14:21

Hi

I'm currently about fed up with my partner. We've been together 8 years and have children together, but have only just moved in together due to having lived in different areas, an hour apart. He's moved to my area

Since we've been living together he stays out till day 6am, at least once a week. Saying he's been to a club, or stayed in his office to sleep off alcohol. Etc etc lots of reasons.

But what are your opinions on partners staying out so late?

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Lauralizzie · 26/10/2023 20:19

CantFindTheBeat · 26/10/2023 20:11

You have an unusual set up, OP, in that you had a long term relationship with the father of your children and still lived separately,

So that's not standard, which means that your 'norms' may not be standard, either.

Why didn't he move in with you?

We both lived in the city he was from, my dad died so I wanted to live closer to my family, so I moved back to my home town with the kids. He stayed up there in his house, then a few years later he realised my area is a lot better place for a family. It's safer and a lovely area. So he bought a house here and we moved into it together

It's a very unusual set up.

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HopelesslyOptimistic · 26/10/2023 20:43

I suspect he's married, sorry OP. Screams double life. Good luck, you sound lovely. Change the locks...

MrsTerryPratchett · 26/10/2023 20:46

It's a very unusual set up.

It is. You basically live as if he is single. And have for a while. But he gets all the benefits of being in a relationship with you.

I see what he gets, I'm struggling with what you get.

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Lauralizzie · 26/10/2023 20:57

MrsTerryPratchett · 26/10/2023 20:46

It's a very unusual set up.

It is. You basically live as if he is single. And have for a while. But he gets all the benefits of being in a relationship with you.

I see what he gets, I'm struggling with what you get.

I don't get much at all, think I'd prefer to be single

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