Husband and I separated more than a year ago. He moved back in a few months ago, health stuff and we are now looking for a more permanent solution, buying a second home.
I have instigated it, we are not a pair, not in love, can barely communicate, no banter, no joy, it's dead and grim and has been for a long time.
The thing is we are both loyal to firstly the kids and eachother, but sometimes I wonder are we just cowards who can't follow through with the break up and what does that say about us? What is wrong with me if I know we are so poorly suited (shame on us), we are good people but just stuck in this trauma and can't get out. It's really affecting us as a family. Why are we so afraid, or are we just so attached to the family unit that we are wasting our time contemplating a break up and live in a sub par marriage instead and accept it.
Please some advice, it is beyond ridiculous and althoughy there's no rowing I feel so sorry for the kids, but even worse when I think of a break up. This has been going on for years.