Friend diagnosed with C but lives other end of country - any ideas what can I do to help?

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She is a very good friend but I don't have the funds to get down there yet, and I'm not sure that that would be the best thing as she is in the middle of chemo.

I have said I am here for her any time of day but would love to do something more concrete. She has a five year old and is beimg well cared for by her DP.

Thanks in advance.

there's a great book called "what can I do to help" by Deborah Hutton, which I found helpful when I was in your situation. the best tip when you are at a distance as you are is to send cards, letters, treats which are easily posted and delivered. she emphasises to add at the end of a letter - no need to reply, to keep them feeling obliged to reply. keeping up contact and making sure the person feels that you are thinking of her seems to be the main idea...

you could ask her DP if there are any pampering type treats - some friends will just know what kind of book/perfume/handcream/magazine subscription (actually, when I've been a bit incapacitated with ie pregnancy/new baby the gardening and cooking mags I get on subscription are great...)

good luck, hope your friend gets well soon

Cheers for that. I'll ask