When did you know it had run its course?

[Notanalmondmum]

I’ve been in a relationship of about 18 months, we live together. Both early 30s. He treats me amazingly and is caring and loving. I can’t deny though that something is missing for me - I feel like there is more to life than this. I want babies one day but not with him.

I feel like a selfish cow feeling this way but I know I’m going to have to disrupt things very soon. Can anyone relate? What made you do it?

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If you are already only a year and a half in and living together and not feeling it then yes you know it has run its course.

If you want babies and it's not with him then I'd say that's the nail in the coffin.
But to answer your question, it was when I didn't really look forward to seeing him and I was bored in the relationship and also he made no plans for our future. I'm about the same age as you.

Thanks both. How did you do it? Have the chat?

also is there still time for me to put someone to have a family with? I am about to turn 32 and quite scared :(

No way other than just to have the chat unfortunately. Break ups are always awful.
I just sat down with him and explained that I wasn't happy and I didn't feel like he made enough effort. He cried but he didn't put up that much of a fight. Afterwards I felt very sad for a while but I know it was the right thing to do and it took me a few months to realise I wasn't in love with him anymore although I still loved him.
Now I just look back on it as a nice relationship with some lovely memories but I know he wasn't right for me and we both deserve to be happy.
In my opinion 32 is absolutely plenty of time to meet someone!

You might not meet someone, no. Or you might. I'm a bit confused how you've ended up living with someone in your 30s when you're not that keen.

@Katysara i was keen in the first few months… then as we got to know each other better, I realised it wasn’t quite right.

If the thought of seeing him with someone else doesn’t make you devastated then that’s a good sign.
as in- if you split up then the day come that he moved on- can you imagine being gutted? Or at peace with it?
if the answer is gutted then maybe you don’t want to lose him .

Don't waste much time from now then. I always found when ending things that, when the decision has been made in my head, it brings a degree of relief as you then start looking forwards - what do you need to do? Don't waste too much time now, get out and get stable elsewhere, and then start again.

My mistake in relationships has been to tolerate the 'not quite right' and then five years have slipped by and I'm ending yet another relationship, no kids, never married.