Dating multiple people

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This is something that I've never really done before and to be honest in reality don't even know if I can but what is the general etiquette here?

I have a FWB but it is fizzling out a bit and to be honest I want more. FWB doesn't so am back dating with the hope of finding something more meaningful. Is it ok to date and still potentially hook up with the FWB until I find that? FWB obviously knows that's what I'm doing but do I have to share with new dates that this is happening or do I just wait until I reach a certain point with them and then end the FWB situation. If so what is this point? Sex? Exclusivity conversation?

I've had a few dates so far but they have not gone beyond a first date so hasn't been an issue yet but if I do get to a second date and beyond situation what would be the expectation?

I'm in my 40s and dating a similar age group if that makes a difference.

You don't have to tell FWB anything.

Just do what you want. You don't owe him anything.

If you do meet someone special be prepared for your FWB to be jealous and make a play for your exclusive affections. Then he will change his mind again.

Definitely date multiple people.

Dating multiple people is absolutely allowed! how will you know what you want if you dont?!

you can tell them you are doing it - all I will say, is they will judge you by how you are with them. so if you are fucking them, they are likely to assume you are fucking all of the men you are seeing.

But yes. its the only way really.

I think you just need to be honest once it gets to sex. I wouldn't want to have sex with someone and then the next night him be hooking up with his FWB and then two nights after he's on a third date with someone else he sleeps with then back at mine at the weekend for more sex. Nothing wrong with that but it isn't what I want so I think if you're approaching the sex point, you should make it clear you are continuing to sleep with other people.

I wouldn't share FWB situation with new dates as things might not even progress to anything serious with the new dates. However, I'd finish things with the FWB either at the point of the exclusivity conversation, or sex with dates, whichever comes first. I also wouldn't tell dates that you are dating others, but assume they are too.

If you plan on remaining friends with your FWB, but without the benefits in future I wouldn't tell dates the nature of your relationship either, just tell them he's a friend.

I wouldn't consider it cheating until you've had the exclusivity conversation and personally I wouldn't be getting naked without that conversation first either.

I honestly don’t understand fwb I thought the whole point of them was that you are not exclusive?

I think the OP is meaning should she tell any dates that she has a FWB. She doesn't need to tell the FWB anything.

I didn't tell any dates about my FWB. I didn't sleep with the dates though, they were just a succession of first and occasionally second dates. Then my FWB became a thing, and we've been together nearly 5 years ...

If you ever want to get to more than 1 date of course don't mention fwb. That would put a lot of men off. If a man told me the reverse, date 2 would not occur.

You can do what you like ultimately, however, you are asking about the morality of it which depends what your own stance is and your motive for dating.

Are you dating because you genuinely want to find a partner, or are you on the rebound, filling a hole that exists because you wanted more with fwb?
Whatever your reasons, you don't have to follow a morale code, there are certainly plenty men online who don't, so don't worry about it.

Absolutely nothing wrong with dating multiple people. If you end up at the point of having sex with any of them, then thats the time to have the exclusive chat and ditch the FWB

You don't owe anyone anything.

Do what you want with whoever you want. No one needs to know a thing.

Personally if I had a date with someone and there was potential there to the point of arranging a 2nd date, I would not be then sleeping with a fwb at that point. I would see how the next date / dates go and if that didn't work out then you can always go back to the fwb.
Reason I say this is because I would be pretty hurt if i'd invested time in someone, which when you go out again past the first date, surely means you both like each other and there are possibilities of a future? and then a relationship developed between us and I then found out that he'd been sleeping with someone else during that time.
But i'm older, so maybe i'm just old fashioned, but I would find it pretty hurtful and I think it would damage the relationship we'd built up over that time. If I invest my time in someone to build a potential relationship I wouldn't expect them to be investing theirs in sex with someone else simultaneously.

how would you feel if you met a man you liked and he had an FWB he was still sleeping with while seeing you?