Boyfriend ignored my goodnight message and commented on 2 other women's profiles instead

[Nusuy]

My partner ignored a goodnight message from me and left it unread. The next day I had a gut instinct and an hour after I messaged goodnight he was commenting on another woman's You Tube video (he knows her in real life and she fancies him) and the next morning another woman's Instagram post. The Instagrammer has since private her profile.

It was only when it had gone midday I asked him why he had ignored my goodnight message and why was he commenting on other women's posts instead. I deleted my goodnight message as it was clear it was of no importance to him.

He claimed he usually has to write a proper reply but that is an excuse as when you say goodnight it is bed time or conversation ends. I just expected him to read it and that was it. In the end he admitted he never read my message. It really annoyed me he thought 2 other women were priority.

Sack him off.

The Instagrammer has since private her profile.

^ are you implying he told her about your conversation?

I wouldn't be dating anyone who liked messages or profiles or videos of people they fancy. Sounds like a teenager to me.

How old are you?
If you're having to check his online activity like this he's obviously not making you feel like you're in a safe secure happy relationship

I think you were right to call him out on that. It is very disrespectful. Where do you go now though?

Why do you invest in this so much? Why is him not texting good night such a big problem? I was you when I was in my 20s and 30s. I read into everything. I over thought everything and I made myself sick.

Him not answering wasnt the problem it was me and my own insecurities. In hindsight they never cheated, wouldn't. But because my head was so fucked I couldn't believe them.

ask yourself why it matters to you that he has to say good night or you feel shit for hours.

If he cheated with this woman that's not because of you - it's a choice HE made. You need to stop expecting the worse .

Why could you be arsed to wait till midday to ask him why he ignored your message? Just dump him.

This would put me totally off & I would dump him. Unless you’re 16 then it’s quite normal!

agree with this

My old ex fancied this other woman... she frequented our meetups...i said it was poor form to be liking her photos (new friend btw) especially ones where they were took to show 'herself' off. He was actually liking the pics so he had a piece of string linking to her if we didn't work out..sneaky dirty. We split up because he always needed validation from other women. He was secretly messaging this woman.. he treated me so badly so i finished it so he could go off with her...cowards way out woe me. He always slagged his ex off so it was obviously a feel sorry for him ...his M.O.
He was spotted with this woman weeks after, he had cheek to wave at my daughter...she blanked him when he waved 😂. I said im fine with it... let her put up with his E D and let him lie about not taking viagra. Im well rid.

And me.

not worth your time op @Nusuy

It all sounds very childish and you both sound like hard work.

Relationships, especially at the beginning shouldn’t be this difficult.
You’re obviously not suited to each other so just both go your separate ways.

Total player, in the bin with him. So childish and pathetic, definitely not a real man

I probably wouldn't look that deeply into it, but as you have and now you know that he'd rather write to other women than reply to your goodnight text, it tells you how unimportant you are, mybe.
However, bear in mind that if only a short goodnight of a few words, then a person can see it all and read it as a banner without needing to open it. I have read short messages without needing to open the app, so would appear unread when not.