Am i overthinking?

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I went on a date today with an amazing man - everything I am looking for - after being single for quite a while.

I have BPD - so this can make things a bit tricky for me - so I just want some opinions to make sure I am seeing things clearly.

I am now really anxious that he doesnt like me. That I am fatally flawed in some way. He has already asked me out again and I think he is keen. But what if he isnt?

My BPD - and the fact that I have been single for quite a while -I am a bit worried that i am just not going to spot the red flags.

What should I be looking for? Is he the one? My soulmate? Can you tell after one date?

No you can’t tell after one date. All you can tell is you both would like to see each other a second time for a short period.

Thank you

He is wonderful though - and I had a great time. I enjoy his company a great deal and I am looking forward to seeing him again.

He may not be my soulmate, but it feels like he is my soulmate!

Great day!

I'd see him again.. hopefully lead to more dates and get to know each other more. If he's kind and polite and treating you with respect etc .. see where it goes.. l wish you all the best. X

Yes, you're overthinking! When it comes to dating, it's best to go with the flow, take things as they come, and trust feelings over thoughts.

I don't personally believe in soulmates. I think we have varying levels of compatibility with different people. With some people we have very high compatibility, but there's no single person who will be perfect for you in every way. It's important to have realistic expectations. Be excited about your new guy, but don't put him on a pedestal.

Try to take things one step at a time. I know it's hard, but try not to worry too much about the future or about the possibility of rejection. When you find yourself having negative or anxious thoughts, pause and ask yourself, "is this a fact?" He's expressed an interest in a second date. This is a fact. That you're fatally flawed is not a fact.

As for red flags, this is the time to focus on how you feel. Does he make you feel good, safe, comfortable, respected? Feeling uncomfortable is, in my opinion, the number one red flag to be mindful of.

Good luck!