I need advice please

[Johny4543]

Hi everyone.

Could you tell me whether narcissist would text you non stop? I think I have just met one, texting nearly on daily basis, video calling, normal calling, always asking about everything in my life but also constantly talking about himself. I felt like I started having no air to breathe as he would not leave me alone, and finally told him off big time and our "friendship" is now over which I am so glad about. I am just wondering if I was dealing with narcissist with control issues?

If he`s out your life now and you have blocked him.
Move on no need to be thinking about it now.
Just be pleased you had a lucky escape.

Yes definitely sounds that way.

What convinced me I was dealing with narcissist, I started replying less and less frequently and one evening he started asking out of the blue where I am with question marks etc.. I told him I think he has control issues and he needs to chill out as I won't be playing these games anymore.

Does he need a label? Does it matter?

You didn't like the way it was and so ended it. The end.

I never came across this sort of person in my life and I was wondering what's this to be honest. I don't want to label him but I think something's wrong with him to be honest. Normal people don't act this way and this carried on for a good months and months

Sounds like you've trusted your gut and got rid early on, so you've done the right thing.

Actual narcissism isn't as common as people make out, and no one could diagnose him based on that one behaviour. But it does sound like a red flag for controlling behaviour. He might have been potentially abusive, or he might just be really clingy. Thankfully you haven't stuck around long enough to find out which it is!

Thank you for your reply:)

He doesn't need to be a narcissist in order for you to end things.

You can just end things because you don't like his behaviour.

You don't need to justify this or diagnose him.

When I started new job, he would always help me and guide me etc. I thought he's just being nice, we exchanged numbers and texting started pretty much every day for 8 months. My wife clocked straight away, something's wrong. I thought he's just being friendly. Then he moved cities and s...t intensified. Apart from texting, he was video calling me or calling me and it got to the point when I got just sick of this and I realised his game. That's when I ended it.