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[HappyAnonymous]

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He's very abusive. Is the house in joint name's or just yours or his? Please speak to Women's Aid, they can help you leave.

Oh, you've just deleted your post. Hope the bloke didn't see it. Please try to post again, Mumsnet will support you.

It’s complicated I will try to make sense….

1. been together a long time have a child and he has children’s from previous relationships. We were happy at first and had a child fast ( I now know it was to control me)
2. has been verbally abusive over the years always calling fat, spotty, cunt, useless etc
3. has cheated on me several times and been on dating sites but makes me feel like I cannot leave
4. I’m paranoid out of my mind I constantly question everything he does- but recently had a really strong feeling something was going on. Twice I have come him from a day out and he has made a huge Sunday roast with one plate left for me he was saying ‘this is the best dinner I’ve ever had it’s well better than yours I got a recipe offline’
5. I have know found out a girl has been coming round to my house when I’m not there and making the big Sunday roast he was trying to get me to eat. This girl is younger than me and has no children. He’s also told me when he told her has cheated on me in the past she said ‘if that was me I would just want you to tell me because then it’s not cheating’ and he’s using this against me like well that’s what other girls would be like and she also had a pregnancy scare.
6. I feel like it’s all my fault I either should have left but I was always so scared. He’s saying it’s my fault he has a high sex drive and I deprive him. I’m scared I’m going to leave and he will hve this girl pregnant straight away which affects my child.

please be kind to me

Sorry I felt embarrassed to post it il probs keep it in for an hour x